5 Reasons Not to Color Your Gray Hair

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Subject: Brown to Silver White

I have very dark brown hair (almost black) started noticing the grey when I was in my early 20's. It was in beauty school that I started experimenting with color. That was in 1986. I just turned 51 and thought it was time to grow out the grey. My daughter said to me as she was coloring it a dark brown that I think you should grow it out mom. Your hair is very pretty. I said the same thing to my mom when she was about my age.
So, I went and had the high lights put in my hair all over and getting more now that it has grown out and you can see the roots. Think I really like the look of the grey. It is liberating to me not to spend so much time on my hair anymore.
I think every woman should let their natural colors fly!


Subject: should I go grey

I am 47 and have verz long read brown hair. I am slightly starting to have some grey strands and would like to know the following:

Due to the fact that my hair will not grow anymore as it is super long, if I tint my hair there will be no grey roots showing?
I thought I could do this once or twice a year just to have it coming it slower.
If I however dye my hair and then want to just let it go, how would be the best way to go around that without having to cut it.
But I must say I am inclined to just let it go.
thanks for your time

catherine tatar

Subject: my grey hair

I bleached my hair blonde from the time I was 18 to about 50 I am 57 and love my gray hair my husband on the other hand still has natural dark brown hair few silver hairs maybe 6 if he finds them he pulls them out so I get referred to his mother or grandmother all the time he is 1 yr older than me. It bothers both of us. his sister in law (a hairdresser) everytime she see's me wants to color my hair. UGH I love my grey hair it's snow white in front (like my grandmother) and dark grey(like my mom's) in back and for that reason I love it . but, giving into peer pressure for my husbands sake I am considering going a medium brown (my original color before dyeing blonde). being called his grandmother does not bother me but does him even though he likes my hair now but did not at first. UGH you do not want to be my brain right now. I also have had MS for 15 yrs relapsing progressive and in the midst of battling uterine cancer. so maybe it's time for a change?


Subject: Ooooo.... I have to chime in.

Ooooo.... I have to chime in. I'm so glad to come across this article. I am 48 and my hair has gone from one strand of gray I could pluck to a whole head of hair that I would need to shave off to get rid of the gray -LOL.

I tried coloring it myself .. and then it turned green as the black faded back to gray - to mention a great clean up job of dye in my bathroom. Furthermore, the gray did NOT come in evenly but in unsightly patched .. a blob here a blob there - LOL. I tried paying a stylist $40 a visit and that was just to apply a "rinse."

And then, like the author of this article, I did the time / money factor.... and you know what I realized? The author is correct.. IT IS FREEING to accept your hair color! Furthermore, now that I have not colored it once this past year ... my hair looks BETTER because the gray is now EVENLY applied all over my head. And you know what else? I figured out that over a 10 year period, I can save money for a car .. or my hairstylist can have money for HER car.

This lady is gonna be in one nice car n 10 years ... and my gray hair can be waving bye to everyone as I drive down the road. LOVED this article!!!

Suzy de Lancey

Subject: Grey hair appearing days after dye at hair salon

My hair is thinning on the crown. It was Grey but I now have it dyed medium
Brown. At one week past the dye application, it begins to turn grey once
more. The dye is Semi-permanent. I don't see hair falling out.

I use Wen Shampoo, which I love. I also am own several medications.




Subject: Hair turning grey again

HI Suzy,
I am sorry you are having the same problem I am, which is grey hair showing up pretty quickly again. Semi -Permanent fades out gradually over 6-8 shampoos so it will get lighter pretty quickly I imagine. I get salon permanent color and my grey comes out after a week as well but its regrowth showing. MY stylist has also changed my formula to make it stick better to the grey. The thing I wanted to mention is that I heard Wen can make your hair thin or make you lose hair. Some people wrote about it in reviews online and my girlfriend was experiencing it as well. I just wanted to mention that to you. Maybe you can investigate it a bit.
Good Luck!

cheryl davids

Subject: gray hair

Hi I am a fit streamlined 61 year old women. I love to dance and have been a widow for 19 months. My hair has been gray, short and spiky for the last ten years. Everyone says its stunning. I am tired of it. I would like to dance, in at least one more Flamenco show, but gray hair looks weird on stage. I think I am going to let it grow and color it, but I am worried about having to touch up every 2 weeks as it grows at an alarming rate. Will the constant touching up damage my hair?


Subject: Youthful Gray

When I was 16, I found my first gray. For many years I was coloring my hair like I thought I was supposed to, it was the "norm". I'm 34, now, and I decided a year ago to stop. I had been sitting at my daughters cheer practice, and as I looked around at all the other mother's hair, I realized how fake all of them looked (and were). Between their fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake tans, fake breasts, fake laughs, and fake hair.... I realized I never wanted to be like them. I stopped coloring and have received more complements from my male friends and, most importantly, husband, for my real hair, than I ever received for my "previous" look. I've realized that most women are making themselves up for other women, 'cause men sure don't appreciate the fake.


Subject: Thank you!

I think both of you gals just saved me! I am 36 and have not colored since December or January. Most of my gray grows right around my face, and since I wear my hair pulled back 99.9% of the time, it is VERY obvious! I always see "older" people that dye their hair and think it looks so fake and I don't want to look like that. (My natural color is dark brown) Anyway, these last couple of weeks I have been debating about coloring. Even last night I said to my husband I was going to do it! LOL But after reading this, my courage do has been renewed! Thanks!

Anna Rotovei

Subject: All the men ask me to dye my hair

One year ago I stopped diying my hair. I am 37 and my face looks like 27. In return my hair is 50% gray. since I stopped dying my hair, I recieve compliments from women. In return all the men I know, recommended me to die my hair. It is really sick to see in what a fake world we live. I just love myself, I accept that I am agging and I have never been more happier. I love my salt and pepper hair. Why people cant accept the gray hair? What is Wrong with US culture? In Europe , you can see a lot of women wearing their natural hair color.

Nicola Thomas

Subject: Going gray

I have recently been considering going natural, I have some silver hairs, enough to notice. I've only been colouring my locks for about 5 years. I'm 45 and my partner says I'm to young to be gray. I've thought it may be a good idea to actually have silver highlights to make the transition easier which he also feels won't suit me. Not sure what to do now.


Subject: Wow! What a revelation!

Same with makeup (to an extent). I was always applying my makeup to a T, when I went out, and even though I smiled and was nice to people, they didn't talk to me.

Now that my boyfriend doesn't care whether or not I wear it, I often don't.

Now when I go out, people actually approach me for friendly conversation, more men actually!

It seems to me, that when I was made up, I intimidated people (I am very tall), and now I seem much more approachable as "just me"!!!

Just being me in San Diego

Subject: me too!

I learned this lesson early in life. On my wedding night, it took about 30 minutes to remove all that make-up, 200 bobby pins, etc and when I emerged from the bathroom, my new groom declared "Oh, there's the real you!" -- That made such a deep impression on me that I rarely wear anything more than foundation to keep the shine away and a little color on my lips. I work in the community with high-risk teens. I think it's so important to show these young girls that spending brain cells and time on believing in yourself, knowing who you are and what you can contribute to others is WAY more important than perfect make-up every morning. At least, that's what I hope they are learning!!!

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I second the original question (still unanswered). Speaking as someone who logged in today to try to find an attorney, I see this category as one that's exactly what I have my Angie's List membership for:

1. It's important that I find a good one
2. I'm not an expert enough to know myself who is a good one
3. The industry is full of advertisements and misinformation
4. I wish I knew what experiences other people have had

I don't care about lawns--I planted mine in clover and don't have to mow it. When I do need to mow I use a rotary Fiskars mower, which is great--or a scythe. That's right--a scythe (the European type, which is smaller, and it's very good exercise). Gas-powered mowers, chemical fertilizers and weed killers--all nasty stuff that gets into everyone's air, soil, and water. I'm sure my neighbor doesn't like my wildflowers, semi-wild pockets of fruit bushes, and unmown areas and yes, dandelions (I have 10 acres) but that's too bad. It's better habitat for wildlife, especially the pollinators on which our food supply depends. I think this obsession with the Great American Lawn is a waste of time and resources. Plant some food instead.

I'm not sure Angie et. al. want you to have a complete answer to this question. By re-subscribing at the Indiana State Fair in 2012, I think I paid $20.00 per year for a multi- year subscription. Maybe even less. At the other extreme--and I hope my memory isn't faulty about this--I think the price, for my area, for ONE year was an outrageous $70.00. And they debited me automatically without warning. I had to opt out of that automatic charge. I like Angie's List, but if some of the companies they monitor behaved the way they do in this respect, they'd be on some sort of Pages of Unhappiness. I'll be interested to see if this comment gets published or censored out of existence.

That's very difficult to answer without seeing the house. As one poster said, the prep is the most important part. On newer homes that don't have a lot of peeling paint, the prep can be very minimal even as low as a couple or a few hundred dollars for the prep labor.

On a 100 year old home with 12 coats of peeling paint on it, then the prep costs can be very high and can easily exceed 50% of the job's labor cost.

A 2100 sq ft two story home could easily cost $1000 just for the labor to prep for the paint job. That number could climb too. Throw in lots of caullking  or window glazing, and you could be talking a couple or a few hundred dollars more for labor.

Painting that home with one coat of paint and a different color on the trim could run roughly $1000 or more just for labor. Add a second coat  and that could cost close to another $1000 for labor.

For paint, you may need 20 gallons of paint. You can pay from $30-$70 for a gallon of good quality exterior paint. The manufacturer of the paint should be specified in any painting contract. Otherwise, the contractor could bid at a Sherwin-Williams $60 per gallon paint and then paint the house with $35 Valspar and pocket the difference. $25 dollars per gallon times 20 gallons? That's a pretty penny too.

That was the long answer to your question. The short answer is $2000 to $4000 and up, depending upon the amount of prep, the number of coats, the amount of trim, and the paint used.